Sometimes it can be really difficult to like yourself, especially if you're constantly comparing yourself to others and trying to meet an unachievable standard. It's time you started loving you for you!
A New Story
Before you can start feeling better about yourself, you have to trust that you have good qualities, which means you have to stop believing certain things about yourself. Focusing and embracing your strengths is nearly impossible if you don't own all of you.
The first step is the hardest, but it doesn't have to be that hard. The term "false self" was introduced by pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Woods Winnicott. Your "false self" is learned at young age, and it's the idea that we act according to others' expectations, which means we override our true wants and ignore our sense of self.
A lot of what we think about ourselves is learned. And because since it's been learned, we can retrain our brain to see beyond our false self and see who we really are.
How have you made yourself smaller in your life? Stop repeating the same stories or memories that make you feel bad and create new ones. Create new stories that help you achieve self-acceptance. Focus on the positive.
Stop telling yourself what you can't do, and start telling yourself what you can do. The best way to create positive thoughts is to edit the negative ones. When you judge yourself, and think "I'm not good at writing" also remember "I'm really good at drawing though". Don't focus on the bad, instead focus on your strengths. Be kind to yourself and be your own friend by being uplifting and supportive.
Don't Deny It, Own It
When someone compliments you on a talent, instead of playing it off, be humble and accept the compliment. Don't deny your intelligence, creativity, listening skills or anything else. By doing that, you're denying who you are; whether you realize it or not.
Everyone denies their positive traits for various reasons. Maybe you downplay your talents because you don't want to seem full of yourself or you don't want to be seen as threatening or to accommodate someone else.
To truly be who you are, you have to be honest about your strengths. Spend some time thinking about your positive traits.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Don't downplay excitement. Often we just push down our feelings and never show our joy because of how it may appear to others. As long as you aren't boasting, it's okay to give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate.
Find Positive People
If you're constantly around people that are always negative and always put themselves down, it's easier to join in the self-pity committee instead of taking action. Surrounding yourself with people who don't value themselves perpetuates your own negative self-talk.
Finding a positive group of friends can show you that it's okay to embrace you strengths and that it's not selfish. When you're in a group of positive and happy people, you'll feel more comfortable and relax which can make it easier to be self accepting. It's okay to share your accomplishments, so long as you're listening and asking questions about others achievements and life happenings.
Find friends or a community of people with similar likes and you'll grow to be your true self. It'll also be easier to be supportive of those in the group and vice versa because of these similar likes.
Know Who You Are & What You Deserve
Embracing your strengths is difficult, and you have to tailor your methods to fit you. Don't make yourself small. Don't deny who you really are. Denying your true self can bring on a lot of pain, anxiety, confusion and can be emotionally harmful. Be who you are, love who you are.
A New Story
Before you can start feeling better about yourself, you have to trust that you have good qualities, which means you have to stop believing certain things about yourself. Focusing and embracing your strengths is nearly impossible if you don't own all of you.
The first step is the hardest, but it doesn't have to be that hard. The term "false self" was introduced by pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Woods Winnicott. Your "false self" is learned at young age, and it's the idea that we act according to others' expectations, which means we override our true wants and ignore our sense of self.
A lot of what we think about ourselves is learned. And because since it's been learned, we can retrain our brain to see beyond our false self and see who we really are.
How have you made yourself smaller in your life? Stop repeating the same stories or memories that make you feel bad and create new ones. Create new stories that help you achieve self-acceptance. Focus on the positive.
Stop telling yourself what you can't do, and start telling yourself what you can do. The best way to create positive thoughts is to edit the negative ones. When you judge yourself, and think "I'm not good at writing" also remember "I'm really good at drawing though". Don't focus on the bad, instead focus on your strengths. Be kind to yourself and be your own friend by being uplifting and supportive.
Don't Deny It, Own It
When someone compliments you on a talent, instead of playing it off, be humble and accept the compliment. Don't deny your intelligence, creativity, listening skills or anything else. By doing that, you're denying who you are; whether you realize it or not.
Everyone denies their positive traits for various reasons. Maybe you downplay your talents because you don't want to seem full of yourself or you don't want to be seen as threatening or to accommodate someone else.
To truly be who you are, you have to be honest about your strengths. Spend some time thinking about your positive traits.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Don't downplay excitement. Often we just push down our feelings and never show our joy because of how it may appear to others. As long as you aren't boasting, it's okay to give yourself a pat on the back and celebrate.
Find Positive People
If you're constantly around people that are always negative and always put themselves down, it's easier to join in the self-pity committee instead of taking action. Surrounding yourself with people who don't value themselves perpetuates your own negative self-talk.
Finding a positive group of friends can show you that it's okay to embrace you strengths and that it's not selfish. When you're in a group of positive and happy people, you'll feel more comfortable and relax which can make it easier to be self accepting. It's okay to share your accomplishments, so long as you're listening and asking questions about others achievements and life happenings.
Find friends or a community of people with similar likes and you'll grow to be your true self. It'll also be easier to be supportive of those in the group and vice versa because of these similar likes.
Know Who You Are & What You Deserve
Embracing your strengths is difficult, and you have to tailor your methods to fit you. Don't make yourself small. Don't deny who you really are. Denying your true self can bring on a lot of pain, anxiety, confusion and can be emotionally harmful. Be who you are, love who you are.